do you do when you live hundreds (or thousands) of miles
away from your aging parents but you're concerned about
their ability to safely live alone?
a dilemma experienced by people all over the country
every day. And there are no easy or fast answers.
following suggestions may help as you work your way
through this tough time.
all the options before moving your relative.
In-home services may permit them to remain in their
home, close to neighbors and friends.
Take note of possible problem areas such as nutrition,
safety, driving ability, medications, finances and
physical or emotional illness.
paperwork and affairs in order.
Make sure legal and financial affairs are in place
and up to date, and that you know where to locate
critical documents and papers.
To request a free checklist
that will help you gather all the important
contact information, paperwork and legal documentation
you'll need as a long-distance caregiver -- send
us an e-mail
up a support system.
Ask friends and relatives to check in with your parent
on a regular basis. If that is not adequate, you may
need to hire someone to help your family member with
meals and personal care.
and acknowledge your own limits.
As your relative requires increasing levels of care,
you may become overwhelmed. Consider hiring a geriatric
care manager to coordinate your family member's care.
for time off work.
Plan ahead to have family leave or personal days available
in case you need to make an unexpected visit to your
relative. Put aside money in a special fund to pay
for such trips.
Family Services can help you understand all the options
and issues you'll need to evaluate in your new role
as a long-distance caregiver. We can even help coordinate
some out of town services and put you in contact with
local agencies in your parents' area.